That one thing to tech them is, that talent doesn’t exist. Your child needs to understand, that she/he can become whoever he/she wants to become if she works hard enough on the particular thing she chooses. She needs to clearly understand, I will repeat that clearly understand, that she wasn’t born with a certain gift, like math gift, great tennis backhand gift, or playing piano gift. No, no and no. Kids are not born with these gifts. And sooner they understand it, the sooner they will become the talent they want to become, if you help them of course.
So your primary concern in this matter as a parent or educational professional is to insist that your kids really understand this. How do you accomplish this? This is very simple. When your child brings a bad grade from math, sits on the bench because her coach didn’t make her play, or losses a tennis game, you will very positively explain to her, that she will need to work a little harder to be better next time.
The same way, when the child succeeds and wins the match or brings the good grade home, you say something like this: Good job Jimi, you worked very hard for it. And you never say: O my god, you are so talented. That can have a very bad effect.
Anyway. Seems like the words mater a lot in this case too. Choose them carefully when praising your child.
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Great article IMO!
I have 6 years old boy.. and this is exactly what I am saying to him.. to be successfulhe needs to train ( because he loves to play football) and study a lot.
Aslo he needs to know a bit about everything but to be a specialist in only one thing.