December 30th, 2012 Milan
The saying goes, that you are suppose to play it safe in life. Go slow to avoid fall. Don’t rock the boat. Stay in the line, so you are not exposed to the danger. Right? Wrong!
Life in every aspect of it becomes more dangerous, the more you play it safe. Michael Jordan said that he rarely got injured because he never played at half speed. Life is only rewarding if you play it at full speed. And it is not only more fun, it is also safer.
This rule is not meant to only young. It is especially meant to old. And the older you are the more it will mean. It applies to not only your exercise, healthy living and healthy eating. It applies to everything – to love, finance, art, sex, everything.
In mid century when Brits were testing the speed of sound many plains crashed, because pilots were advised to slow down right after they reached speed of sound. Many life’s were lost. Until one pilot did the opposite. As soon as he reached the speed of sound he decided to push through and speed up even more. The result was big success. The speed of sound was successfully broken and the pilot survived.
Are you getting older? Do you think you already did it all? Tried it all? Time to slow down? You might do the biggest mistake of your life. It can cost you your life. If you want to save it, speed up. Keep pushing the wheel forward. Enough said.
November 15th, 2012 Milan
Are you not happy with your overall fitness level. Do you struggle to loose weight? You don’t feel well most of the time and you get tired often? You hate those love handles, when you look into the mirror? Do you feel weak?
On the other level. Do you you hate you job? Do you want to do something else, but don’t seem to find anything you are good at? Are you broke? Are you depressed because of all of that?
The answer to all these is: Practice.
I just came to the realization, that my writing is for the most part crappy. I make a lot of mistakes, I don’t write often enough, I only write when I feel like to write. I get a lot of negative feedback. Rarely a positive one. My English grammar still pretty much suck. And I find a lot of words that I don’t understand.
Does this bother me? Of course it does. Am I depressed because of this? No. I am not. There is actually reason for my writing being crappy. I realize that in order to get better in writing I need to practice more. I need to practice harder. I need to work on a writing craft more intensively. I am very far away from paying enough frustrating mornings and nights dues of writing.
I simply need to practice more. The reason my writing suck is because I don’t practice enough. The reason you are overweight is because you don’t practice hard enough. The reason you are often tired and out of energy is because instead of practicing your health honing skills in gym or outdoors pool and learning about good diet and applying what you learn, you are watching your favorite show in the evening.
The reason, you hate your job, is because you don’t practice the skills to get a job you love. First, you have to show the world something valuable you can offer and than you get a great job you love. And that takes a lot of practice.
I can go on and on about the problems people have and it always comes down to practice. Or better said, not enough of it.
So if the practice is the key to the success in almost everything, why there are so many unhappy, mediocre people? It is because people hate to practice. It’s uncomfortable. It’s not fun. It hurts. There are always better things to do.
But if you manage to defy gravity and you practice and hon your skills in spite of not wanting to, your skills will improve. You’ll get better. As one of my palls used to always say and I think it is truth: “If you do easy things, life will be hard. If you force yourself to do hard things, life will be easy”. So, force yourself to practice. And your success is certain.
June 18th, 2012 Milan
Recent heat wave brought a lot of people to the fit club I hang out a lot. Usually, these club is very empty and peaceful. Suddenly for few days it turned into a very busy place. All stations in the gym were busy. All lanes in the pool were used and people were sharing them and others were waiting for one to get open. The heat wave is gone and the fit club is empty again.
What happened? Fair weather exercisers. I have been noticing this pattern for few years now since I work in many fit clubs.
Fair weather exercisers
Fair weather exercisers are not fit, nor they are totally out of shape. They desperately want to get fitter, but somehow they lack the discipline. But when the weather gets really nice, something goes off in their head. They are starting again. This time for real. They will persist. But several days later, they don’t even realize what they promised themselves. They stay home or find something other to do until another set of nice days roll in.
Another interesting thing happens when there are too many nice days in the row, like for example a week or so of nice, warm, sunny days. Fair weather exercisers will certainly come and keep coming for few days, but after about 5 or 6 nice days they stop coming. What happened is, they realize that weather is just nice, it’s nothing special anymore. It’s just nice weather after all. The switch needs to be turned with a specially nice weather. And there is nothing special anymore about 7 straight nice, warm days.
Are you one of these people. Are you a fair weather exerciser. If you are, you are probably kind of fit, often sore, but you seem to be getting nowhere with your overall fitness. To bring it to the next level you need to stop being a fair weather exerciser. You have to make a commitment and stick with it. Very hard thing to do. Hard but not impossible.
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June 7th, 2012 Milan
Whatever your goal is. Either it is to loose weight, run marathon under 4 hours, start a million dollar company, get you own six pack abs or to become invincible, the only thing you can control is effort. How much effort are going to put in it is your choice. Are you going to spend your evening watching fun movie, or you are going to get closer to your goal. Yes, that’s ultimately under your control.
I know few people, who really have dreams. In fact they have these dreams for a while now. Dreams like, loosing weight, getting six pack, learning Spanish, quitting their job and starting their own business, writing a book. And when they have some spare time, they hang out in the coffee shops dreaming about their dreams. They are dreaming, it feels good to have a dream that you could someday achieve, but they are not really doing anything to achieve it. They are just having fun dreaming.
If you want to reach certain goal you set yourself to reach that is meaningful enough to you, it won’t be easy. And the only way to reach it is to put an effort into it. And this effort is 100% in your control. Are you going to hit the gym and do your workout on Saturday morning, or are you going to hang out in the coffee shop with your friends. Are you going to finish the project on Friday evening? Or, are you going to watch that favorite show you watch every Friday evening? These things are ultimately in your control.
It’s not fun to go to the gym, when your friends go out. It’s not fun to work on the project, when you can go for a fun dinner out. It’s not fun. And if it’s not fun, it’s likely that very little people are doing it. But those who manage to achieve their goals do.
Anyway, the effort is in your control. Are you putting enough of it toward achieving your goals? if you have to ask that question, you are probably not.
June 4th, 2012 Milan
That one thing to tech them is, that talent doesn’t exist. Your child needs to understand, that she/he can become whoever he/she wants to become if she works hard enough on the particular thing she chooses. She needs to clearly understand, I will repeat that clearly understand, that she wasn’t born with a certain gift, like math gift, great tennis backhand gift, or playing piano gift. No, no and no. Kids are not born with these gifts. And sooner they understand it, the sooner they will become the talent they want to become, if you help them of course.
So your primary concern in this matter as a parent or educational professional is to insist that your kids really understand this. How do you accomplish this? This is very simple. When your child brings a bad grade from math, sits on the bench because her coach didn’t make her play, or losses a tennis game, you will very positively explain to her, that she will need to work a little harder to be better next time.
The same way, when the child succeeds and wins the match or brings the good grade home, you say something like this: Good job Jimi, you worked very hard for it. And you never say: O my god, you are so talented. That can have a very bad effect.
Anyway. Seems like the words mater a lot in this case too. Choose them carefully when praising your child.
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April 23rd, 2012 Milan
When nothing is working we give up. When we tried everything to loose weight, to make the team, to hold our promises to ourselves and it seems like we are not making any progress, we get discouraged and stop trying. And that is exactly the wrong thing to do.
The fittest, happiest, most successful people know this. They all were there, where you are now. When things seemed helpless and clouds darkest, they stick it out. They kept trying. And they eventually found the way to make it.
To stop trying is the worst thing you can do ever. You can see a lot of people all around you that already stopped trying. Don’t ever become one. Some also say that, when you stop trying, you start dying. And I agree with that statement.
The good check for if you didn’t stop trying is finding yourself in uncomfortable situations often. Sweating in the gym, eating not that tasty diet, but very healthy one, staying in that school and finishing when everybody is expecting you to fail.
Joe Montana was a bench player in college. But he didn’t give up. He didn’t know exactly how to become great quarterback, but he didn’t stop trying. And eventually he become one.
Oprah struggles with her weight loss constantly. But she is not giving up. She keeps trying. She has managed to loose weight before and she knows it’s possible. And I am sure, she will eventually loose it and keep it down.
I never learned English in my life. And first two years when I worked in the San Francisco restaurant, I screwed up more orders than any waiter in the history. It was frustrating and I was many times very close to quitting and getting fired. But I persisted, the manager didn’t fire me and my English eventually got better so I didn’t have any problems with the orders.
Whatever situation you are in, however hard it might be, if you don’t quit, you’ll get certainly better. When the system is expecting you to quit and you persist and stick around, you will achieve extraordinary results.
When nothing is working and everything feels hopeless, you are most likely at the beginning of the turnaround and if you don’t give up, things will get better.
So the best advice is to not stop trying.
March 29th, 2012 Milan
I was sitting in the car the last Friday at nearby park where I usually do my cardiovascular exercise. Sitting and thinking. Do I want to do this? No, I don’t. But I should. No. I am cold, I didn’t bring a rain jacket. I only have shorts and shirt. No way I am going to run outside when rain is pouring like this and it is so cold.
I was feeling a little bit disappointed, because I felt like I gave up, but I realized, that I have few very good reasons to do so. I grabbed the car key, put it into ignition, and decided to go home.
But than suddenly, I just got out of the car without thinking and started running. It felt cold and I was shivering in the beginning. Than after 10 minutes of warm up running I did my first three 100 yard sprints and I started to feel warm and energized. I was feeling suddenly warm, good and strong. I finished the rest of my sprints and came back to my car. I was completely wet so I changed to dry clothes and sit back inside my car.
While sitting there after about 45 minutes of intensive workout in heavy rain and cold weather, I realized that my energy level, fragility of the moment, I was cold and kind of tired and mood improved by at least 100 times. First, I didn’t disappoint myself and that felt good, but the blood floating in my veins and endorphins in it just gave me this euphoric great feeling that wasn’t even imaginable a little wile ago. I did it. I completed my workout.
Anyway, if it rains, or snows and it is miserable outside and you don’t feel like going there, because you are cold, kind of tired an comfortable at your warm home, do it anyway. You are about 1 hour from feeling amazingly great after finishing your workout in these miserable weather conditions. Plus all those great beneficial things you get from running in the storm – improved immunity, great feeling from endorphins, better fitness levels from being consistent with your overall workout plan.
You will have a great rest of your day! It’s no wander they recommend cold showers for mood improvement.