November 22nd, 2012 Milan
We want to know all the answers before we start. Otherwise we don’t. We stay in our comfort zone. To start, we need to see the end. And the vision of the end is usually hard to see. So we get stuck.
If you want to improve, reach your goal, and get unstuck, the best way is to start. Make a lot of mistakes and learn on the way. Fail, pick yourself up and learn. That’s probably the best formula to get unstuck I know.
Look, that fatty kid who’s brother was in wrestling team just went along for the practice with him. Kept coming in spite of being the worst. He got a lot of laughs from teammates and he lost most of his fights. He was the worst in a group. But he persisted and kept trying to improve. Well, now, he is a great athlete with college scholarship mostly winning the wrestling tournaments. And he is not fat anymore, but very fit.
Start, don’t wait and you’ll never be stuck ever again.
November 12th, 2012 Milan
November rain is a name of a song the rock band Guns n’ Roses released sometime in early nineties. I am sure you heard of it. I don’t remember exactly the year. But, what I remember is that I was finishing elementary school and starting my high school when November rain was winning the musical charts and was a big hit of these times.
I was a big fan of Guns n’ Roses. Many of my schoolmates were. I would listen to it every day. This was a time when me and all my schoolmates were very enthusiastic about life. We were full of expectations, young, fit and strong and ready to rock the world. Nothing was stopping us.
17 years later I don’t listen to Guns n’ Roses anymore. Which is not a big deal. I still own all of their albums and I still like the band. And I still love the song November rain among many others this great rock band came up with. But I changed. I listen different music. I do different things. I spend my time differently. Which is totally fine, we all change this way.
On our recent elementary school reunion which I didn’t attend because it took place in Bratislava – Slovakia and I live in U.S. now and couldn’t free my time to go, I noticed that majority of our class indeed changed. We are all different than we were back than. I look at the pictures and my former school mates look good, they are all smiling and having fun like in the old times and many things didn’t change. They look like they are all successful and enjoy their life’s.
But I also noticed, that many of us got out of shape. We were for most part all strong, fit, healthy, athletic, very active young kids back than. And that really changed. We are getting older and we are getting out of shape, gaining weight, getting fragile and more tired. Yes, Axl included.
Change is good, but some things should never change. Actually we shouldn’t let them change. Staying physically active, strong, full of energy, healthy and lean should never change. But these stuff almost always change. Fit kids become unfit adults. Don’t let that happen to you. Fight like hell to not change this direction. It really is possible.
October 4th, 2012 Milan
Are you showing up for your work out? Statistics show that when you already show up for your work out, you are 80% more likely to finish your work out. This is huge! And what that means is to make it death easy to make your preparation for a workout fast, short and simple.
In my case that means, putting my running shoes and shorts on in 30 seconds or less without thinking about it and leaving the house right away. Suddenly I manage to stand on the street in front of my house with my athletic clothes on. And there is nothing else to do, than just start running. And when I start, I usually just keep going until I finish 45 – 1 hour run. And my workout is done.
I carry my rollerblades in my car at all times. When I have a brake between training sessions, I put the wheel skates on in 1 minute, grab a hockey stick if I happen to have it in my car and hit the street. 1 hour later I am done with my intensive, full of skill learning workout.
It’s the same with your gym workouts. Make it very easy to get to the gym, have it on the road to work or from work or just walking distance from your house. Have your cloths already on you, or change fast and without thinking get in the gym. Now, you are standing there in the front of all those machines and dumbbells. There is nothing left to do than just to do your workout. And you will most likely finish it.
To really keep up with you exercise, you have to remove all the barriers, all the BS from the road. It needs to be dead easy to show up. If you manage to do this, you will most likely keep up with your workout.
Completion of your workout closely depends on BS removal. Keep it simple. Show up. And the rest will take care of itself.
August 7th, 2012 Milan
Here are 3 of my favorite quotes about what’s really possible and about reaching your true potential. You might be surprised, what could be the reason that you are stuck. Maybe you are happily and purposefully stuck. And there is nothing wrong with that. But you are still stuck. You are hovering in your comfort zone.
Ok, here they are. Get inspired!
If you think your weight, health, and physique are just fine, you probably won’t change your diet or start exercising spontaneously. If you’re comfortable with your social circle and confidence, you probably won’t do much to improve your social skills or expand your circle of acquaintances. If you think you’re making enough money, you probably won’t do much to earn more.
When you discover that other people are actually doing something you previously considered unrealistic or impossible, it changes your Reference Levels in a very useful way. All you need to know is that something you want is possible, and you’ll find a way to get it.
Good books, magazines, blogs, documentaries, and even athletic competitors are valuable if they violate your expectations about what’s possible.
May 10th, 2012 Milan
People get obsessed by security. They avoid dangerous situations. They accumulate lots of money and always feel like they don’t have enough to be secure to the future. We get afraid in this world a lot even do there is almost no real genuine reason for us do do so.
So we hide, secure our homes, accumulate more money, build high fences and pay for expensive alarm systems.
But we often forget about one of the most important, most genuine security in this world: Our health, injury prevention and longevity. And we often don’t obsess about this kind of security at all. We just exercise and eat healthy diet whenever we have time. That’s what I am suppose to do, right? You tell to yourself. If we don’t, we skip it, without any guilt. Hey, tomorrow is another day, right?
You will most likely not be robbed on gunpoint in your lifetime, or you will certainly not starve to death on the street, because you run out of money. If your house gets ever burglarized, it will most likely happen, when you are on vacation and all they will take is some worthless electronics and maybe some jewelry. The most valuable things in your house are the pictures of your kids after all. Everything else is just a worthless junk.
But, you are very likely to become diagnosed with one of this scary life threatening diseases in your lifetime: diabetes, cancer, heart disease, broken hips, Alzheimer’s disease.
Now, Guess what? The best way to prepare for disaster like this. The best security for these genuine dangers in our life is to exercise and eat healthy diet. Maybe you should obsess about these just a little bit more from now on.
November 8th, 2011 Milan
Recent surfing competition on San Francisco’s Ocean Beach started with sighting of a big, scary shark.
Dusty, a pro surfer exited the waters of Ocean Beach in first round heat of competition, after noticing something big and moving in the water and never came back.
“I was sitting out there and saw something in line up.” Dusty said in the statement. “I have seen dolphins before and that wasn’t dolphin. That was the biggest fin I have seen in my life, and it was right in front of me.”
The shark sighting came few days after 27 year old surfer was bitten by a shark in not too far away Monterrey area.
Anyway, I know Ocean Beach. I surf there regularly. It can be a pretty scary place to surf. Sun almost never comes out of the fog out there and surf is usually big and violent. So, I can relate.
Kelly Slater won the competition. Did he know about the shark sighting the day before right there where he was surfing? Of course he did.
Was he afraid the next day when he won? Of course he was.
Even the surfer, who will tell you, that he is not afraid of sharks is very afraid of them.
Yet, he was in the water competing. And he won the competition.
Kelly Slater and other high performing individuals learned how to conquer their fears.
No, the fear doesn’t go away, It stays. Important is, what you do next.
Don’t let fear paralyze you. The most successful achievements and ventures lead through some scary situations the encounters went through.
The fear will always be there. What you do after is important. Are you going to crawl under the table, or face your fears and win?
It’s with anything in life, if it’s running a marathon, picking up kite surfing, joining a gym, asking for a date, swimming open water competition or quitting your job and starting ghost hunting business. If it feels a little scary, you are on to something. And if you don’t let the fear paralyze you, you will most likely win.
October 24th, 2011 Milan
Self motivation is and always will be the most important form of motivation.
If I told you, that you either have it or you don’t and there is nothing you can do about it, I would be the negative, unsupportive guy.
But, if you don’t care what I say, you probably have it. You probably are self motivated and you don’t wait for somebody to motivate you.
Self motivation is a great thing to have. In the end it’s all we have. Because it really determines where you are and where you’re heading.
Getting motivated by somebody else rarely works for long time. That’s why you can see full public tennis courts few days after a tennis grand slam final.
People see a celebrated hero win in long 5 sets Mach and they get motivated. They feel like they could be like him too, if they work hard enough.
Unfortunately, this motivation doesn’t last long. Couple of weeks later, tennis courts are empty. Like they were before. And the next time they become busy will be after another slam final.
Only few will last longer and very little will last forever. Those are the ones that are self motivated. And obviously, they become better tennis players and better at anything that they are trying to improve at. They are self motivated.
So don’t wait for somebody to motivate you, motivate yourself. Give it a try. Try different things and see what works. Self motivation matters a lot.
Get self motivated or stay dreadfully average like 99% of people who always quit after few tries.
Self motivation is necessary at getting healthier, loosing weight, learning to play harmonica, getting stronger, learning new language, running a marathon under 4 hours, learning french cooking and everything else. Your life depends on it. You have to find it!